Lessons that my Mum taught me
People say I am turning into my Mum (when I say people, I mean my boyfriend, Dad and brother). I think people are quick to take offence to such a comment. However, the more I think about it the more I realise I should actually take it as a compliment. I know everyone says this about their Mum; but, mine is pretty awesome. On Mother’s Day it is definitely the perfect time to be grateful for everything your Mum has done for you. I wouldn’t say I am ever ungrateful, but having an excuse to realise how much she has done for me is definitely not a bad thing. It is when I do this, that I realise how much I have learned from my Mum already, in my twenty odd years of life. I mean, obviously, I learned to talk and walk etc from both my parents – that’s a given for most people. But, I mean more than just the basics. Earlier in the week, I spoke about Inspirational Women and it is safe to say my Mum is one of the most inspirational women in my life.
1. Hard work pays off
For as long as I can remember Mum has been working so hard to achieve what she wanted in her work life, alongside being an amazing Mum. It sort of links to the lesson below, but with everything that she has ever done, the amount of effort she puts in is 100%. Whether it is from working for her actual work, helping my brother and I do some sort of adult stuff (bills can be confusing) or baking us the perfect birthday cake, she never gives it less that 100%. I think this is where I get my work ethic from and I am very happy to have inherited this.
2. If you want something you have to go out there and get it
When my brother and I were still in school, my Mum decided that she wanted to become a teacher. With a young family, even alongside my Dad working full-time, Mum had to continue working whilst completing her degree. I was quite young at the time, so I don’t think I completely appreciated what she was undertaking. However, now that I am studying for my own degree (full-time, with only a part-time job) I cannot understand how she managed to continue each week. I seem to have a breakdown on a weekly basis and I am only looking after myself.
Now that we are a little older it is great to see that her hard work paid off. She has a career she loves and continues to progress in – obviously still by working her butt off. I just love that she achieved what she wanted to and can now reap the benefits of the hard work.
3. Everything happens for a reason
Some people may say that this contradicts the above lesson. But, I fundamentally disagree. Sometimes, no matter how hard you work, it is just not meant to be. Or, it may be that it is just not the right time. At the end of the day, the hard work will get you somewhere, whether this is exactly where you thought it was or not.
4. Organisation is the key to life
I think organisation may just be in our genes. It drives some people crazy and they cannot understand how we live in such an organised manner. That’s until they realise how much Mum manages to do with her life. Time to go to work, go to the gym, cook delicious home cooked meals and still enjoy a fun-filled weekend. Organisation has allowed me to take on so much at university and not miss deadlines; plus still have fun and I cannot thank her enough for this lesson.
5. Be happy being you
Sometimes it is easy to get caught up comparing yourself to others and wondering if you are doing the right thing with your life. Making decisions is not my strong point. It is good to have a constant reminder that you are living your life to please yourself and that is all that matters. It means that the decisions you make are always right, because you made them at that time for a reason. Even if it doesn’t work out as you expected, you made that decision for a reason that you knew deep down.
I should point out that my Dad did also teach me some of these things, but today is all about Mum (sorry Dad, you have to wait until June!).
Happy Mother’s Day Mum, thank you for being amazing every single day!